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The image of a veiled bride walking down the aisle on her father#39;s arm could become a thing of the past as a growing trend for #39;feminist weddings#39; has been detected among modern brides to be.头披白纱的新娘挽着父亲的手缓缓走进教堂....这样的婚礼场面也许即将成为过去时。现在也来越多的女性在自己的婚礼上,用特别的、反传统的方式宣扬着“女权主义”。Doing away with the engagement ring, choosing not to be #39;given away like property#39; and wearing a colour other than white are key themes gaining traction in the feminist wedding trend.不需要订婚戒指、不愿意像私有财产一样“被交付于谁”、不选择白色的婚纱作为婚礼。婚礼上的反传统让女权主义的现代女性们乐此不疲。The findings, revealed in a survey of 200 brides to be, revealed that almost a quarter of women planned on keeping their maiden name after marriage, while one in 10 were planning to wear a colour other than white on their wedding day.根据对200个新娘的调查报告,有四分之一的女性计划婚后不随夫姓,另外,10个新娘中有一个不愿意穿白纱。Traditions such as the wearing of an engagement ring are also increasingly being rejected by brides who feel it is anti-feminist - with such an obvious token to be worn on the finger marking the woman in question as #39;taken#39;.传统形式的带订婚戒指也被越来越多的女性不能接受,她们认为这种形式是反女权主义的表现,因为带订婚戒意味着打上了“附属于谁”的标签。The tradition of wearing a veil is being similarly rejected, as some women believe it plays into the idea that a woman is #39;revealed#39; to her husband as the virgin bride (though actually the use of a veil is steeped in history and has very different significance across multiple cultures).给新娘披上白头纱也被很多女性拒绝,因为很多现代女性觉得这个仪式象征着男人要求自己的女人是处女。(尽管新娘披头纱在不同文化里有很多种意思)However, while there is undoubtedly a stirring among young brides to be, parents can take comfort in the fact that while some women are beginning to push back against the patriarchy, the majority are still keen to uphold certain traditions, with 76 per cent of brides saying they really would like their father to walk them down the aisle.然而,尽管这种趋势在年轻女性中越来越流行,甚至有女性在自己婚礼上身穿黑纱来抗议父权,然而让父母们安心的信息是,大多数女性表示,希望在自己的婚礼上,手挽着父亲走向自己的新郎。Elki Parmar of Wedding Days.co.uk, who conducted the survey, said: ‘Some of the brides we have spoken to are doing things that they feel make their wedding more #39;feminist#39;.做这份调查的制作人Elki Parmar讲:“一些新娘认为在自己的婚礼上这样做更能体现“男女平等”的观念。”#39;That could be reflected by deciding not be given away, the idea being that one of the connotations of this tradition is that the woman is property to be given away.“传统的结婚形式对女人来讲更像私有财产交易一样这样,女人从此附属于她的丈夫,所以,现代女性在自己的婚礼上这样做,目的是告知大家自己不是附属于谁的。” ‘Other brides are choosing not to wear white on their wedding day as a woman’s white wedding dress traditionally carries connotations of virginal innocence whereas what the groom wears on his wedding day is not perceived to be symbolic, creating somewhat of an imbalance from some feminist perspectives.#39;“一些新娘在自己的婚礼上选择不穿白色婚纱,因为白色婚纱在传统意义上来讲蕴含着新娘纯洁无瑕的意思,而新郎的装饰上并没有任何特别含义。现代女性认为,这在某种意义上说是女女不平等的表现。”Elki said: ‘Many of the women we spoke to thought that changing their last name after marriage to their husband#39;s conformed to a patriarchal ideology and didn’t want to feel they were giving up their own identity for their husbandsElki讲:“婚后改随夫姓也是很男权的表现,她们不希望嫁了人就失去了自我”#39;While some were planning to not change their names at all, others were going to incorporate their husband#39;s name into their own.“一些女性婚后不愿意改随夫姓,而另一些女性选择将丈夫的姓氏加到自己的姓名里面。”#39;However, many women also echoed the sentiment that a couple sharing the same last name is something that binds their family together.“然而,还是有很多女性认为婚后将姓氏该随夫姓是结合成一家人的意思。”Kelly Doncaster, Wedding Manager said: “#39;It is true that couples like to make their wedding their own and often do away with certain traditions.婚庆经理Kelly Doncaster讲“现在很多夫妻喜欢自己的婚礼个性化,不按照传统形式举行。”‘For many, traditions are still part of the ceremony but not because of reasons which may be perceived as anti-feminist.“对于很夫妻,传统的仪式任然是婚礼上的一部分,但和“反女权主义”无关。#39;For example the bride will often want her father to ‘give’ her away, not because of anti-feminist reasons but because she loves her father and wants to display that love on her wedding day.“比如说,很多新娘任然愿意父亲在自己的婚礼上挽着自己走向新郎,将自己的手交到丈夫手里。她们这样做不代表她们反对女权,只是因为她们自己的父亲,想在这个特别的场合表达对父亲的爱而已。” /201307/249760

Unless you think you#39;re the smartest, who doesn#39;t want to be smarter? Of course I want to be smarter too, so I try to find out who#39;s the real smart guy that maybe I can learn from. James Gardner has got me an answer on Quora about whether someone#39;s smart or not.除非你觉得自己聪明绝顶无人能敌,谁不想变得再聪明一点呢?我也是,所以我就想看看能从那些聪明的家伙身上学到点什么。美国著名演员詹姆斯·加纳就在Quora上回答了我,可用来判断一个人聪明不聪明。Here are the signs of smart people:下面是聪明人的10大信号:1. They don#39;t talk as much as you, because they know they got smart by listening.他们不会说太多,因为他们知道多听才能变聪明。2. They know lots of things other than what they#39;re specialised in. Theirs is the gift of a broad mind, constantly fed with the stimulant of being interested in what everyone else is doing.除去专业知识之外,他们知道的很多。他们的天赋就是思维活跃,总是对其他人在做的事情充满好奇和兴趣。3. They juggle home, work and personal interests with dexterity and never fall back on the tired old refrain about “work life balance”. And when they#39;re juggling, they somehow manage to seem 100% engaged with what they#39;re doing, on all fronts simultaneously, even though you know they#39;re taking appropriate steps behind the scenes to make sure their lives are perfectly, serenely balanced.他们把家庭、工作和个人兴趣完美平衡,从来不会为“平衡工作和生活”这样的事情伤脑筋。当他们玩的时候,似乎会全身心的投入在这件事上面,他们面面俱到,虽然你很清楚,其实背后他们努力的走好每一步来让生活更加完美、更加平衡。4. They probably do social media. Not always, but probably. It is not only another chance to listen, but one they use to ensure they can feed their brains with things they otherwise wouldn#39;t have come across.也许他们会涉足社交媒体。不是一贯如此,只是有可能而已。这也是另外一个倾听的机会,但他们往往关注的是那些从没有经历过的事情。5. Even when things go very badly wrong, they#39;ll be smiling. Smart people never get ruffled because their smart brains present them with alternatives faster than the bad stuff can happen.即使事情发展很糟糕,他们也会面带微笑。聪明的人永远不会被打倒,他们的大脑永远都会在坏事发生之前,火速想好其他的解决方案。6. They know they are usually the smartest person in the room, but they don#39;t spend their time dwelling on that. Instead, they take it as a personal challenge to see if they can make everyone else the smartest person in the room too.他们知道自己是屋子里最聪明的人,但不会花时间去沾沾自喜。相反,他们会把这当做对自己的挑战:看他们是不是能把屋子里的其他人也变得一样的聪明。7. If they are managers, they will make every effort to get people smarter, more connected and more popular than them in their teams. They#39;re not threatened because they know that smartness is synergistic. They also make sure that their smart people get to look smarter than them for the same reason.如果他们是经理级别的人物,他们会努力让别人在整个团队中看上去比他们还要聪明、亲密和受欢迎。他们不会感到威胁,因为聪明有相互促进的作用。同理,他们也会确保这些聪明人看起来更聪明。8. They have hidden skills that never get rolled out until they#39;re needed. They don#39;t have any need to show their full capabilities for reasons of proving they#39;re better than others.不到万不得已,他们不会展现出自己的所有技能,无需仅仅为了明自己比别人厉害而去秀自己的能力。9. They may or may not have expensive educations. You#39;d never know, just by being with them unless you had their CV in front of you.他们也许没有受到非常高端的教育,除非看到他们的简历,否则你永远都无从得知。10. They never, ever, under any circumstances, make you look stupid, even though it would be easy to do so. They#39;ve learnt through bitter experience that the only thing that happens when you make someone look bad is you look bad yourself.在任何情况下,他们绝对绝对不会让你看起来很愚笨,哪怕这是件轻而易举的事情。因为从过去的教训中他们学到的是,让别人看起来糟糕的唯一手段就是让自己也出洋相。Now you should know who the smart people are. If you want to be the smart one, let me give you this extra advice from Steve Jobs “Stay hungry. Stay foolish.现在你应该知道谁才是聪明人了吧。如果你想变得聪明,再送你一句话,就是乔帮主那句经典的名言:“求知若饥,虚心若愚;。 /201309/256743

Language 美国语言 What do you call someone who speaks three languages? Trilingual. What do you call someone who speaks two languages? Bilingual. What do you call someone who speaks one language? An American. 你如何称呼能说三种语言的人?三声带。能讲两种语言的人又如何称呼?双声带。那么,只会一种语言的人呢?美国人。 To people in many countries, being bilingual or even trilingual is a way of life. But since the mother tongue of most Americans is English-a language widely spoken around the world-they often don't feel the need to learn a foreign language. Moreover, people who live in the heartland of America have little contact with other linguistic groups, making foreign language skills irrelevant. 对许多国家的人而言,说两种或三种语言,是家常便饭。但在美国,由于大多数人的母语为英语--一个世界上广泛通用的语言--因此美国人都不觉得有必要学习外语。此外,居住于美国大陆内地的人,较少与其它语言族群接触,因此外语能力更显得无关紧要。 Actually, though, this "land of immigrants" has always had people of many different nationalities-and languages. The 1990 census indicates that almost 14% of Americans speak a non-English language at home. Yet only 3% reported that they spoke English "not well" or "not at all." That means that slightly more than one out of 10 Americans could be considered bilingual. Besides that, many high school and college students-and even some elementary school students-are required to take a foreign language as a part of their curriculum. In addition to old standbys like Spanish, German and French, more and more students are opting for Eastern European and Asian languages. Of course, not all students keep up their foreign language abilities. As the old saying goes, "If you don't use it, you lose it." But still, a growing number of Americans are coming to appreciate the benefits of being multilingual. 事实上,在美国这块「移民之地」,一直住着来自不同国籍、说不同语言的人口。一九九○年的人口普查显示,几乎百分之十四的美国人,在家里不讲英语。只有百分之三的人宣称他们英语「说得不好」或「根本不会说」。这表示十分之一强的美国人可视为双声带。此外,许多中学生、大学生,甚至小学生在校的学科都必须加修一门外语。除了西班牙文、德文与法文等常选的第二语言外,愈来愈多的学生选修东欧和亚洲语言。当然,并非所有学生都能够学以致用。套句老话:「不用就会丢掉。」尽管如此,愈来愈多的美国人已经开始意识到会说多种语言的好处。 Ethnic enclaves, found particularly in major metropolitan centers, have preserved the language and culture of American immigrants. Some local residents can function quite well in their native language, without having to bother learning English. Regions such as southern Florida and the Southwest have numerous Spanish-speaking neighborhoods. In fact, Spanish speakers-numbering over 17 million-compose the largest non-English linguistic group in America. But Chinese, Vietnamese, Italian, Polish and many other ethnic groups add to the linguistic flavor of America. Foreign languages are so commonly used in some ethnic neighborhoods that visitors might think they are in another country! /200803/32558

There are many types of natural detoxes that one could undertake and here are five popular natural detoxes one could find out about:Colon cleanse - to clean out old food and chemicals that are in our system. This helps get rid of parasite that produce some of the toxins in our body.Juice fasting - nourishes the body with the vitamins and nutrients from fresh fruit. Live enzymes can jump start the systems in our body and get them to vitality again.Apple cleanse - for liver cleansing to remove toxins so the liver can function without being clogged.Water fasting - a stringent and effective way to detoxify your body because it forces metabolism of body fat and releases stored toxins into the blood stream for elimination. Can produce overwhelming toxic and sick bodies so water fasting should be for those who are very healthy.Lemon juice and honey fasting - for someone getting onto the path of detoxification as not as hard as water fasting.In part five of this series, I will write about the popular liver cleanse in more detail. 人们可以采取很多自然的方法排除毒素,以下是最受欢迎的五种自然排毒法:1.清肠——将遗留的食物及化学物质排出我们的身体组织之外。这能够帮助我们排出寄生虫,寄生虫会在体内形成一些毒素。2.禁食——只为身体提供维生素和新鲜水果的养分。活性酶能够推动我们的生理系统,使我们的身体再次富有活力。3.苹果清洁法——排出肝脏内的毒素使得肝脏能够没有负担,轻松工作。4.饮水疗法——这是一个艰苦但十分有效的清除体内毒素的方法。这个方法迫使身体的脂肪进行新陈代谢并释放体内积存的毒素,随着血液流动逐渐消除。此方法能够产生过度毒素导致身体虚弱,所以只有健康的人才适用饮水疗法。5.柠檬汁蜂蜜排毒法——这适用于那些初涉排毒之路的人们,这个方法没有饮水疗法那么辛苦。在这一系列等等第五部分,我会详细介绍这些受欢迎的排毒疗法。 /200804/34589

It#39;s often been suggested that the CEOs of the Fortune 500 are of above-average height. We#39;ve never done the number-crunching ourselves, but unofficial studies suggest the assertion has merit. Arianne Cohen, the 6#39;3#39;#39; author of The Tall Book: A Celebration of Life from on High, maintains there is a tangible correlation between height and success -- and offers up a variety of theories on why tall people tend to thrive in business and elsewhere. Fortune recently sat down with Cohen to talk about the role height plays in the workplace.经常会有人提到,《财富》500强企业的CEO身高都在平均线以上。我们从未亲自调查过相关数据,但是非官方研究表明这一说法并非空穴来风。身高超过1.9米(6英尺3英寸)的埃尔瑞娜#8226;科恩(Arianne Cohen)是《高个子之书:至高点的生命礼赞》(The Tall Book: A Celebration of Life from on High)一书的作者,认为身高和成功的确相关,并且提供了一系列理论说明为什么高个子的人更容易在商界和其他领域取得成功。《财富》最近采访了科恩,她就身高在职场中的影响发表了自己的意见。So there#39;s really a connection between height and success?身高和成功真的有关吗?It#39;s huge. Tall people make an average of 9 per inch per year (for every inch above a person of average height) and this has been shown repeatedly in a set of four large-scale salary survey studies over 50 years in both the U.K. and the U.S.关系很大。高个子的人每高出平均身高1英寸(2.54厘米)每年就多赚789美元。过去50年中这个数字在对英国和美国所做的四项大型薪酬调查研究中都反复出现。Numerous studies show that when bosses are given real and fictitious resumes of two competent employees, there#39;s about a 70% chance that bosses will pick the taller person for the job. In follow-up studies where the managers were asked to rate the employees coming in to the job, they gave flying color reviews to the tall people, which is hilarious because none of the employees had even done anything yet. The clear implication of this is that tall people are perceived as very competent before they ever display proof that they are.大量研究表明,当面对两个称职的求职者递来的有真有假的简历时,70%的情况下老板都会选择个子高的那一个。在后续调查中,每当经理被问及如何评价即将上任的员工,他们总会对高个子流露溢美之词。这点实在是很滑稽,因为这些员工还什么都没有做。从这不难看出人们先入为主地认为个子高的人能力也卓尔不群。Why is that the case?为何会如此?One reason tall people are successful is that they are very memorable. We are evolutionarily primed so that whenever somebody sizable walks in the room, everyone in the room glances, because millions of years ago the biggest person was either going to be a protection or a threat. Being memorable is a major boon if you#39;re doing great work, but it#39;s a double-edged sword: If your work is awful, everyone is going to know it; they won#39;t forget.个子高的人取得成功的一个原因是他们让人印象深刻,这点是在人类进化的过程中形成的看法。每当一个大个子进屋时,他会引起每一个人的关注,因为几百万年以前,块头最大的人要么是保护者要么是威胁者。给人留下深刻的第一印象是一把双刃剑:如果你表现出色,那会锦上添花;但如果你表现糟糕,那么也尽人皆知,因为人们都没有把你忘记。Tall people are also very good at guarding their personal space, and this pays off in spades in the workplace. When two friends are talking they tend to be 18 inches apart, when two coworkers are talking they tend to be about three feet apart. When a boss and an employee are talking they tend to be at least four feet apart. People always give tall people that full four feet. So when they do studies where they put a camera in an office floor and track the body language, tall people are related to by everyone in the room with that ;boss-space,; whereas with short people, coworkers crowd their personal space.身材高大者善于保护自己的私人空间,这使得他们在职场中容易获胜。两个朋友交谈时,大概相距0.45米;两个同事交谈时,相距大概0.9米左右;当老板和雇员交谈时,至少相距1.2米。和个子高的人交谈时,人们往往会保持1.2米左右的距离。根据放在办公室地板上的摄像机跟踪到的肢体语言记录,在和高个子同事交谈时,所有的人都与其保持着相当于和老板保持的距离,然而在和矮个子同事交谈时,则侵占了对方大量的个人空间。So how do you explain shorter CEOs like Jack Welch and Ross Perot?如何解释像杰克#8226;韦尔奇(Jack Welch)和罗斯#8226;佩罗(Ross Perot)这样身材相对矮小的CEO?These are broad statistics, and there are many short people who do succeed. But people of any height who are successful tend to display certain behaviors that correlate with success. Jack Welch#39;s wife actually told me that Jack thinks he#39;s really tall. And there are behaviors that correlate with success. Successful people, whether short or tall, are known and seen. You know when Barry Diller walks into a room, and Jack Welch commands his physical space. So shorter people who are powerful often display many of the same behaviors as tall people.有大量的数据表明许多身材矮小的人也取得了非凡的成就。但凡是那些获得了成功的人,无论身高几许,都会表现出和成功相关的行为特征。杰克#8226;韦尔奇的夫人告诉我,事实上杰克自认为很高大。成功人士无论高矮,其一举一动都容易引起公众注意。你知道巴瑞#8226;迪勒(Barry Diller)什么时候进屋,而杰克#8226;韦尔奇能控制自己的活动空间。换言之,大权在握的矮个子往往会表现出许多和高个子一样的行为。There are also a number of short CEOs who have succeeded by avoiding the corporate ladder and starting their own companies. This is definitely the case for Ross Perot, who is a self-made billionaire. Ron Perelman and Barry Diller also started their own companies instead of trying to move up from inside a company.还有很多身材低矮的CEO通过自己开公司取得成功,而不是通过在公司内部一个阶梯一个阶梯往上爬。罗斯#8226;佩罗就是一个典型的白手起家的亿万富翁。罗恩#8226;佩雷曼(Ron Perelman)和巴瑞#8226;迪勒也都是这样打出了自己的天下。What are the best and worst jobs for tall people?什么工作最适合高个子,什么最不适合?Tall people make more money and also tend to cluster in higher-paying fields. This is because they tend to thrive in fields in which social interactions take place, since they#39;re helped by their body language. So tall traits are going to shine in these kinds of jobs. For example, if I were a litigator, I would be able to use the full power of my tall body to command presence, whereas if I were a clerk sitting behind a desk, I would gain no benefit from being tall. Granted, plenty of tall people flock to other fields -- for example, there are a disproportionate number of tall people in police work, firefighting work, and physical work where being tall would be of value.高个子的人赚钱更多,也更容易聚集在高薪领域。这是因为得益于他们的身体语言,他们易于在社交互动性强的领域成功,也就是说高大的身材会在这类型的工作中发挥优势。例如,如果我是一名律师,我就能充分利用我身高的优势来把握我的表现,相反假如我是一个文秘,每天坐在桌子后面,那么我的身高就无用武之地。当然,还有很多高个子的人涌向其他的领域。例如在警察、消防员和其他一些能发挥身高优势的行业中,个子高的人占有极大的比例。What advice do you have for tall people in a job interview?对高个子在面试工作时有什么建议?They say that when you#39;re networking, your goal is to be liked. You want to make someone as comfortable as possible. To do this you need to adjust your body language and be hyper-aware of yourself. In my case, this means no hovering. I go out of my way to kill the dumb jock stereotype by being as verbally coherent as possible, and I always sit down as soon as I possibly can. I gain nothing by standing there flexing my physical might.有人建议说面试的时候要迎合对方的喜好,要尽可能的让对方感到舒。要达到这个目标,你需要调整自己的肢体语言并且高度注意自己的言行。对我而言,我不能拖泥带水,要当机立断。我的身材很容易让人把我当成一个笨拙的运动员,我会尽可能以清晰连贯的口头表达来消除这种成见,并且一有机会我就坐下,因为我不会从不断调整站姿中获得任何好处。Isn#39;t it sometimes better to be short than tall?是否有时候身材矮小比身材高大有优势?The big challenge for tall people is that they cannot hide. Tall people are always public, and this can be pretty tough. Short people and those of average height can camouflage and sort of disappear in a crowd when they choose to. It#39;s just a beautiful thing to be able to hide, and really stressful when you#39;re tall and not able to do this.对于身材高大的人而言,一个很大的挑战是不能隐藏。高个子的人总在人们注意之中,这其实是一件麻烦事。矮个子以及中等身材的人可以根据自己的需要在人群中伪装甚至消失在人们视线之外。能够隐藏是一件很美妙的事,可惜对于高个子来说,由于无法隐藏自我而总是活在压力之下。Have you ever wished you were shorter?你是否曾经希望自己变矮?Absolutely. In my first job, in consulting, we would sit around in the conference room and I would always be the one called out and asked questions -- especially when I hadn#39;t even had a chance to have my first cup of coffee. Now it#39;s not a matter of wishing I were short, but of wishing that I could make the awkwardness and all of the really god-awful body language just go away!当然!我的第一份工作是咨询,那时我们经常围坐在一个会议室里开会。有时候我都来不及喝第一杯咖啡就被点名发表意见。现在,重要的不是希望自己变矮,而是希望我可以避免做出笨拙和特别糟糕的肢体语言。 /201311/263738

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